I’ve been thinking lately about happiness. As a coach, I talk a lot about creating the life of your dreams, and it occurred to me that I might be giving people the impression that you can’t be happy unless you’ve set up some perfect life, and that we have to work hard at that. The truth is that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination. Happiness is available to you right now….
Happiness is Seeing Beauty Now
Written by admin on May 5th, 2009Eliminate Internal Conflicts with Splits
Written by admin on May 2nd, 2009We’ve all heard the term “internal conflict” and we hear people say that they are “of two minds,” but few of us actually look at what that means. Internal conflicts can not only keep us confused and stuck, put can sabotage our efforts, be a source of great stress, and suck all our energy. One of the best tools for dealing with internal resistance is the Split, where we split out different parts of the personality, where we actually assume there are two minds, or even more than two minds at work…. I’m talking about something that sane people can do to get rid of internal conflicts. Interested?…
Expanding Through a Practice of Bravery
Written by admin on April 30th, 2009What’s something brave that you could do today? What’s the story you’re telling yourself that isn’t true? How might your brave act serve you and the world?…
10 Leadership Traits
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009The Authentic Leader:
1. Knows and shows their true self. Believes in themselves.
2. Is balanced and centered. Maintains a work-life balance; is calm and listens to intuition….
Creating a Mentoring Relationship
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009A mentor is a wise and trusted guide, teacher, and counselor. Here are some guidelines for establishing a mentoring relationship….
Questions to Gain Perspective
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009We lose perspective when we are immersed in a situation and feel trapped, or we are stuck in anger or fear, or we think that our situation is a disaster. Perspective is about getting outside of the situation and looking back. Here are some of the questions and approaches I sometimes use with clients to help them gain perspective:
1. What else could be true?
2. Is there a 3rd option? (Often there are several.)….
Giving Blessings, Seeing Beauty, & Being of Service
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009…. When we truly bless others, we simultaneously bless ourselves, and love seems to pulsate through us both…. It’s easy to bless if we can see beauty everywhere…. Practicing service moves us outside of ourselves and makes our actions a holy offering. A simple act, such as washing dishes for others, becomes an act of love and enriches life….
Visioning & Self-Assessment Tool
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009Sometimes you know that something’s wrong – you feel just blah, but you’re not sure what’s wrong or what to do about it…. The pie can also be used in the long-term, to vision the life you want and to see where you need to spend time creating balance….
Multiple Aspects of Personality
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009…. If we try to ignore or quash the voice of either the artist or the critic, we’ll continue to be haunted with this conflict, and the aspects will come out of shadow in inappropriate ways. These voices have gifts for us, and deserve to be heard and honored….
Listening to Dreams
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009Like myths and fairytales, dreams contain messages from beyond our consciousness, and require our careful listening, interpretation, and gratitude. Consider them as from a wise elder within who knows the answers to our questions, and the direction we need to go in….
Listening to Poems & Stories
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009…. Ancient myths and fairytales survive because their truths are universal, because they are born of a common human consciousness and wisdom that knows what we need to make our way through life… Following are my accounts of two tales good for group tellings. The first is a fairytale from Africa. The second is a parable from China…
Listening to the Shadow
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009The shadow is that part of ourselves that we hide, repress, or deny…. I might see a friend acting snobbish and get angry because the snob is a part of me that I don’t like. If I can recognize this projection, then my feeling of anger immediately dissipates, and I’m less likely to act out towards the person in anger….
Listening to Each Other
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009…. Listening is not about fixing someone, defending, analyzing, or avoiding uncomfortable subjects. Listening is about assisting someone in exploring and discovering things for themselves….
Mandalas
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009We can also listen to ourselves by drawing mandalas, what I call a snapshot of the psyche in art…. I like to make mandalas when I’m not sure how I’m feeling, or when I’m feeling bad and I can’t figure out why. Here’s how to do it….
Listening to Feelings
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009I think many men and some women simply don’t know how they feel, or how to identify their feelings, or feel comfortable expressing those feelings. Letting the soul breathe, connecting with people on a deep level, and moving through pain and into peace, requires that we be able to know and express our deepest feelings….
Listening to Nature
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009The universe speaks to us constantly, if we would only listen. The wind whispers to us, the storm shouts, and the animals, trees, and rocks have special messages….
Listening to Life
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009This is a site map for my Listening series of articles on my website. All of these pieces are also available in the blog under the Listening to Life category….
Creating Authentic, Loving & Enduring Relationships
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009…. Worship keeps you distant…. True love is an opportunity to love a flawed person and love yourself…. We are attracted to people who share our parents’ traits – both good and bad…. Do unto others what they want done for themselves… Standing in your power leads to mutual respect and attraction…. Choose to see someone’s gifts and treat them as special, and they will show up as wonderful….
Re-Scheduling for Balance and Joy
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009Most people whose life is out of balance are so busy, they can’t figure out how to get in the activities that they really want….
Planning & Prioritizing
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009Many of us feel pulled in a dozen directions – too much to do in too little time. How do we get things done without feeling overwhelmed by it all?…
Change That Lasts
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009This is an extensive discussion about achieving goals. Included are some of the usual goal-achieving techniques, and a bunch of other stuff that goes way beyond….
Your 10 Habits for Feeling Great
Written by admin on April 24th, 2009Create your own list of fun and fulfilling habits to practice daily, and feel great! Here’s how to do it…
Permission to be fabulous, to take risks, and to give freely
Written by admin on March 25th, 2009What would the world be like if everyone was free to shine, to reach their highest potential, to joyfully give their gifts to the world?… It is our birthright to claim our brilliance and our privilege to share it with the world….